Last weekend I was
getting my stitch on with my pals,
Lori, Becca & Shelly.
I left the weekend with a few more
new stitchy friends!
They're the best...those stitchy kind of friends!
Three late, late, nights.
And three late mornings!
There was laughter
and lots of stitches!
I worked between the Kathy Barrick Adam & Eve,
and the Blackbird Designs free sampler, Her Sampler 1796.
I ended up focusing on the smaller
Adam & Eve!
|Kathy Barrick Adam & Eve, Mystery Lakeside Linen 36 ct with my own DMC conversion, 2 over 2|
I came home with a finish!
This was my second time attending this retreat.
It's always so nice to be among fellow stitchers!
My friend, Lori, is involved in organizing this with the shop that puts on the retreat.
She graciously invited me to attend again this fall,
and I ponied the money right up!
Signed up, paid for my spot,
and off I went!
This is an open stitch retreat.
No set projects.
The shop is situated about 70 miles from me,
so not one that I have ever visited.
And with the stash factor,
not one I NEED to visit! haha!
While I met many lovely stitchers and enjoyed seeing their projects
the weekend was dampered a bit by a comment made to me
right away by the sister of the shop owner.
She came up to me early Friday morning,
and flatly asked if I have ever even BEEN to the shop.
She then made it clear that the retreat was for "customers" of the shop,
and that I should (ahem) make an EFFORT
to go to the shop and support the shop.
I was definitely caught off guard by the tone!
I was invited! I signed up a while ago! I paid to attend!
I nicely tried to explain that if I lived closer,
and had the need,
I would happily darken the door of the shop.
But she wasn't listening.
I'm thinking the pursed lips, or perhaps the angle of her head
must have been blocking her cochlea!
Now I'm kidding of course,
but I was definitely taken aback by the comment,
as were those at the table who overheard this woman.
Needless to say I was a bit embarrassed,
and felt like a big ol' party crasher!
After this incident,
the stubborn stitcher in me, who had planned to shop the pop up shop that
was set up at the retreat, for things I most certainly didn't even NEED,
decided not to dole out any more of my hard earned money over the weekend.
I know, I know...that's stubborn of me.
But darnit, I felt like I was really being TOLD to shop,
and I don't like being told what to do!
It's a symptom of perimenopause,
I'm quite sure!
Lucky for me most of the stitchers there were
lovely, kind, friendly people who
made it clear to me that I was, indeed, welcome there,
and they were also a bit stunned by the whole scene,
and embarrassed for their LNS.
I stitched, and laughed, and made new friends,
and enjoyed the time spent
doing all of those things!
So it was a win anyway!
I did receive a note earlier this week from this woman,
apologizing and saying she did not 'mean' to offend.
But the message was clear to all of those who heard it.
I realize LNS success depends on customers!
I get it!
I just felt completely singled out as the 'new girl'
by this woman, and,
that's an uncomfortable position to be in!
I may be retreating from this particular retreat for a while,
and instead planning a very long, pressure-free
stitching retreat weekend with stitchy friends!
I honestly don't see me having the need or urge to make the trip
to this shop 70 miles away,
so don't want to feel like I'm taking up a spot
that one of their "regulars" might want to fill.
Luckily, most of these lovely new stitcher friends
also are members of local guilds,
so our paths will cross at places other than this particular retreat.
Have you attended stitching retreats?
How did you find out about them?
What was your experience?
Is it just a rule that some sort of snarky drama occurs when there is
a large gathering of women?
I'm hoping this is just an isolated incident
and you will all sing the praises of other stitching retreats!
I'm holding out hope!